Let’s face it… I’M SCARED OF KISSING!
When I was younger, my friends and I would talk about dating and try to understand dating vs. a steady relationship. We didn’t understand how long it took to date someone before it became a relationship. We asked a couple adults around and they said that the third date is when things get serious. OR the third date was usually when the first kiss happens. I took that belief as my own for years and years until I actually started dating.
But the thing is, the third date still makes me nervous. I have yet to call a guy back after the second date. Because whether the third date is or isn’t the “First Kiss,” I don’t want to be there to find out!
On my first two dates with a couple of guys, we’ve talked about…
-my experience in Germany
-how many siblings they have
-what we want to do as a living
-what we’re majoring in
-what our favorite music is
-where we shop
-what we do for fun
-who our best friends are
And I think all of that is fine and dandy and of course important things to know about a person, but do I have to kiss them after that?
And the thing is, I like them all! I think they’re all wonderful guys. But I don’t want to kiss them.
Is it my own fear of committing? Is it my own fear of letting people into my bubble? Am I just not attracted to them enough?
Perhaps it’s not that I’m afraid of kissing. Because I do like to kiss and I feel quite comfortable kissing. But kissing matters to me. I don’t like to think that every guy that comes around gets a little piece of me and my muah!
But then… If it is that I’m just not physically attracted to them…
If I am not physically attracted enough to kiss them by the third date, should I be dating them at all?
Ugh. Dating. It’s so weird.